Why Is She Waiting To Sleep With Me?
As a man, it is natural to hope that things will progress with your partner, and lead to a physical relationship. But sometimes there can be a roadblock that may surprise you – rather than being eager, she seems to be putting off sleeping with you. There can be multiple reasons for this, and understanding them could make the path to physical closeness easier for both of you.
She’s Afraid She Won’t Be Good In Bed
Though it is a common fear, many women are worried that they will not be able to please you. Especially if it is her first time, she may be anxiously expecting you to be disappointed, or even feel embarrassed and clumsy.
She Needs To Feel Secure
Often the biggest roadblock is a woman’s uncertainty about whether the two of you are really committed to each other. Perhaps it is her first serious experience with a man, and she may be looking for signs that will tell her it’s safe to take the relationship to the next level.
She Has Self-Esteem Issues
For many women, sexual encounters can bring up a lot of unresolved issues from the past. For example, she may still be living with the pain of a previous betrayal, or be feeling insecure about her body image. If this is the situation, talking about it openly and honestly could help her overcome these issues.
She Wants To Take It Slow
In many cases, the female partner seeks a deeper emotional connection before she is ready to move onto a physical relationship. She may be waiting for you to really get to know each other, or be looking for signs that there is long-term potential before getting intimate.
Ways To Help Her Feel More Secure
There are a number of ways you can help make her feel secure and build trust within your relationship:
- Engage in meaningful conversations: Get to know each other, exchanging views on life and love, and really taking the time to understand one another.
- Be supportive: Show her that she can rely on you and tell her your true thoughts and feelings.
- Be open: Be open with her about your own fears and insecurities, and be willing to share even uncomfortable topics.
- Give her time: Allow her to take her time, and don’t push for physical intimacy until she is comfortable with the idea.
Enable her to feel safe and secure, and the physical connection between you will naturally follow.
2. Is there anything she needs to feel comfortable and ready to engage in a sexual relationship?
The answer to this question is going to depend on the person. Everyone has different needs and preferences, and what works for one person may not work for another. Some possible things a person might need in order to feel comfortable and ready to engage in a sexual relationship could include communication and openness, trust, consent and mutual respect, good communication and understanding of boundaries and limits, and feeling safe and secure.
5. What boundaries can you set with her in order to make her feel safe and respected as you discuss this issue?
Some potential boundaries that you can set when discussing this issue with your daughter include:
– Setting a specific time and day to discuss the issue and sticking to it.
– Establishing a safe and judgement-free conversation.
– Respectfully sharing your perspective and allowing her to share hers without interruption.
– Taking breaks during the conversation if the discussion becomes too intense for either of you.
– Above all, reminding her that you are there to support her no matter what decision she makes.