Can’t Reach Orgasm with Your Boyfriend? Here’s What To Do
Reaching orgasm with your partner is an intimate and amazing experience. Unfortunately, for some, it can be an elusive goal. If you’re asking yourself why your boyfriend can’t make you cum, there are a few possible explanations.
1. He’s Not Focusing on You
Sometimes, it’s not that your boyfriend isn’t trying, it’s just that he’s focusing on his own pleasure. To provide you with the most pleasure, your partner needs to give you the attention you need. Talk to him about focusing on your pleasure before, during, and after sex.
2. He’s Not Stimulating the Right Areas
Everyone is different and while some may find pleasure in one area, another person may require stimulation in another place in order to reach orgasm. Explain to your boyfriend what you enjoy and what areas make you feel the best.
In addition, consider using products like vibrators or toys to achieve maximum pleasure.
Anxiety about the situation or surrounding environment can prevent orgasm. Talk to your partner about how both of you can create a more relaxed atmosphere.
4. Lack of Communication
Honest communication is key when it comes to sexual activity. Discuss the things that make you most uncomfortable or areas where you require extra attention.
5. Medications or Other Health Issues
Certain medications or health issues could be preventing you from achieving pleasure. Consult your doctor for a better understanding of your body and what you can do to enhance your pleasure.
Ultimately, communication is key to finding the best solutions for reaching orgasm. Above all, remind yourself that experiencing pleasure is a journey and the important thing is to find a way that works best for you and your relationship.
Ways to Enhance Pleasure:
- Explore each other’s bodies
- Talk about fantasies and desires
- Experiment with different types of stimulation
- Use products/toys/lubricants that enhance pleasure
- Set the environment
4. Are there any specific positions or activities that make it easier for you to reach orgasm?
That is different for everyone. Generally, positions that promote direct clitoral stimulation or deeper penetration can help increase pleasure, but ultimately everyone is different and so it’s important to explore what feels best for you. Some positions to explore could include missionary, doggy style, and woman-on-top — each of these can be adjusted to make them more clitorally stimulating and pleasurable to reach orgasm. Additionally, using sex toys like vibrators can also be helpful in achieving orgasm, as they can provide direct clitoral stimulation while you and your partner explore other pleasurable positions.
5. How can your boyfriend support you and make sure that you are comfortable and have a satisfying intimate experience?
Your boyfriend can support you by first taking the time to understand your needs and making sure you feel comfortable with him. He should be willing to take the time to talk to you about what you enjoy and what makes you feel good. He should also make sure to be attentive to your reactions and desires and to be open and responsive to your requests and feedback. He can create an atmosphere of safety and trust, by respecting boundaries and making sure that every experience is consensual and desired by both parties. It is also important for him to be aware of his own arousal and pace himself so that he is able to truly explore, please and join pleasure with you. Finally, communication before, during and after acts of physical intimacy is key to having a satisfying experience.